Significance of Winning

I notice that the significance I place on victory shapes my future and keeps me from playing the game passionately, intensely, and fearlessly.

The Significance of Winning

I drive myself to win. Whether I'm stepping on a scale, riding my bicycle, writing this article, speaking at a conference, creating a new business, coaching someone, designing an offer, I drive myself to win.

I notice I live in two stories: 1) It’s not winning or losing that matters, it’s how you play the game, and 2) If the points don’t matter, why keep score? These seem to be conflicting points of view.

I notice driving myself to win is a productive and full way to be in life. When I did not win, and sometimes when I did win, I felt empty, sad, angry or regretful. I had been living in these stories until I read The Three Laws of Performance:

“Play the game passionately, intensely, and fearlessly. But don't make it significant. It's just a game.” - S. Zaffron and D. Logan

I felt my conflict come forward. Are Zaffron and Logan telling me winning doesn’t matter? Maybe I don’t understand the meaning of “significant”.

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